Sir Dax

Category: Guides

  • How to meet a Dom or sub

    How to meet a Dom or sub

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    One of, if not the most common questions I get asked, is “How do I find a Dom/sub?” My initial answer is always the same: You don’t. You’re not looking for An Dom or A Sub, you’re looking for a PERSON. A normal, ordinary, regular human being, just like yourself. You don’t see people going…

  • Mentors

    Mentors

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    A common word newcomers to kink may come across is “Mentor”. It’s often bandied around online spaces as something all newcomers should have, but what is it? The idea behind the term is that a “mentor” is someone who will teach you about kink/BDSM, in the same way that you might have a mentor at…

  • Beginner’s Guide to Anal

    Beginner’s Guide to Anal

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    So you want to give anal a try and see what all the fuss is about? Alright, here’s your complete guide! It’s a bit lengthy, but that’s because I’ve answered pretty much all the usual questions and concerns. First, some basics. Ignore what you see in porn. You can’t grab a partner as soon as…

  • Vetting potential partners

    Vetting potential partners

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    You may hear about “vetting” people in terms of finding potential new partners, whether it’s for relationships or just for play – but what does it mean? When it comes to vanilla dating, the whole point of dating someone is to figure out if they’re the right person for you. Sometimes it just takes one…

  • BDSM Philosophies – SSC, RACK, PRICK, CCCC, TREK and FRIES

    BDSM Philosophies – SSC, RACK, PRICK, CCCC, TREK and FRIES

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    In this entry, I’ll answer another one of the most common questions I get: what are the meanings of the acronyms SSC, RACK, PRICK, CCCC, TREK and FRIES? Simply put, they’re a bunch of terms mostly related to the different attitudes some people have towards BDSM (the exception being FRIES). They’re not compulsory, you don’t…

  • Basic kinky concepts

    Basic kinky concepts

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    Whether you’re a Dom, Sub, Top, Bottom, Masochist, Sadist, Daddy, Mummy, Little, Pet, or any other term – there are some key concepts that are common across all forms of kink. This article will help to explain the most common things you’ll come across. Let’s start at the beginning – what is “kink”? In its simplest…

  • How to find your local munch

    How to find your local munch

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    So, you’re new to BDSM, and keen to meet others into the same fun stuff you are? It’s not as tricky as you might think!

  • Safety when meeting someone for the first time.

    Safety when meeting someone for the first time.

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    Dax’s top tips for staying safe when meeting strangers.

  • Beginner’s Guide to BDSM (Solo)

    Beginner’s Guide to BDSM (Solo)

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    First things first: BDSM and kink can be dangerous. Be aware that it is very easy to get hurt, or if you go meeting up with random strangers you meet online, worse. Please do your research- that’s what this post aims to help you with. Read The New Topping Book and The New Bottoming Book…

  • Beginner’s Guide to BDSM (couples)

    Beginner’s Guide to BDSM (couples)

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    This is my “Beginner’s Guide for couples getting started in BDSM.” It is geared towards D/s because that’s what most people tend to ask about, but the bulk applies to non-D/s stuff too. Work through it together, reading and watching the resources I mention, and talk to each other about what you’ve seen/learnt, how you…