About Sir Dax / FAQ
Find out more about why I am a Dominant, why I’m not the stereotypical Dom, and what you can expect when you meet me…
The approachable Dominant.
Sir Dax has been practising BDSM for the past 25 years. He first realised he was a natural Dom 15 years ago, and since then has been mentoring subs and littles as well as helping new subs and Doms understand more about what their roles mean.
Over that time, Dax has developed an approach which makes him both easy to talk to, and easy to serve. More recently, Sir Dax has been using his skills to train couples in the art of D/s, so that they can integrate it into their daily life however they wish. He has also developed a range of online submissive experiences, for those who want to experience the feeling of being dominated without the physical aspects; perhaps while finding a more local Dominant, or to better understand what it means to be submissive.
Dax is very approachable, and takes time to explain every aspect of both the subject and his own approach. For Dax, no question is silly, no fear unfounded, and no request too small. Whether you’re completely new, or have had some experience, good or bad, Dax will put you at ease and help you achieve your submissive desires. When first speaking to him, you don’t need to call him Sir or Master, just a simple “Dax” will do; as he earns your trust you’ll probably find you automatically start using a title.
Soon you’ll be saying “Yes, Sir” without even realising it!
Why is Sir Dax different?
You might wonder what, if the focus is on the sub, Sir Dax gets out of being a Dom? It’s a common question, as the stereotypical Dom is seen to be misogynistic or self-centred.
In reality, for genuine Doms, this couldn’t be further from the truth. A D/s experience is two-way, with the sub depending on the Dominant to facilitate their submission, and the Dom depending on the sub to relax and let them take over. Sir Dax enjoys helping subs old and new achieve their goals, and that is what gives Sir Dax pleasure.
Whether it’s an individual, or a couple learning how to play responsibly, Dax lives to help other experience D/s in a safe, controlled manner that is both fulfilling and exciting.
Sounds too good to be true? Meet Sir Dax and find out!
Frequently asked Questions.
WIll you meet me first?
Yes, I’m more than happy to meet you first; indeed, I encourage it. I’m very safety conscious, so I always recommend meeting in a public place, and I also suggest you follow good practice when meeting anyone new for the first time – I’ve written an extensive safety guide here.
You are welcome to choose the location, however if it is more than a 20 minute drive from Lincoln, I will need to charge travel expenses. Alternatively I am happy to do an online video call.
What is a session like?
A session with Sir Dax will usually start with the traditional British icebreaker about the weather and did you have trouble getting to the venue. Following that, we’ll go over what the session will involve – we’ll probably have discussed this over email beforehand – and then we’ll start with the ritual collaring and inspection. Once it’s time to wrap up, we’ll do the ritual uncollaring and then it’s time for aftercare.
I’ve written a more detailed session overview here.
How long does a session last?
Typical sessions last 2-3 hours, depending on what’s involved. Longer sessions are possible, but I don’t recommend less than two hours; that allows half an hour either side of a one hour scene for discussion and aftercare.
Do you accept male clients?
Not at the moment. It’s something I would like to do, but it’s different mindset that I haven’t quite got the hang of yet!
What if there’s no physical attraction?
With D/s, physical attraction is less important than the attitude you have towards submission.
DO i have to take my clothes off?
Only if you want to. It’s perfectly possible to have a session fully or partly clothed; it’s entirely up to you. We’ll discuss everything before the session, so there won’t be any unexpected surprises.
Can you teach me / my partner to be a Dominant?
I can provide tutoring for couples, but I can’t turn someone into a Dominant if they don’t already have the “natural inclination”. Some people are naturally Dominant, some are naturally submissive, and some have elements of both in their personality. If you have Dominant tendencies, then yes, I can show you how to harness them and guide you and your partner so you can make the most of it at home. I only work with couples; I’m not a “pick-up artist” and I can’t teach single men how to pick up women.