Author: Sir Dax
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What is FinDom?
FinDom This post is all about that perennial favourite, Financial Domination. This is a mix of my opinions and accepted practice within the lifestyle/community, and as with everything in BDSM there are no central rules that govern what we do and how we do it – it’s perfectly OK to have your own opinions, and…
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Is D/s like a manager/employee dynamic?
A lot of people seem to think that being a Dom is similar to being a manager, and whilst they may look like similar roles on the surface, I don’t think it’s a good comparison. The reasons for thinking they’re similar usually come down to: – A manger tells an employee what to do, like…
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How to meet a Dom or sub
One of, if not the most common questions I get asked, is “How do I find a Dom/sub?” My initial answer is always the same: You don’t. You’re not looking for An Dom or A Sub, you’re looking for a PERSON. A normal, ordinary, regular human being, just like yourself. You don’t see people going…
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Mentors
A common word newcomers to kink may come across is “Mentor”. It’s often bandied around online spaces as something all newcomers should have, but what is it? The idea behind the term is that a “mentor” is someone who will teach you about kink/BDSM, in the same way that you might have a mentor at…
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What is the BDSM community, and do I have to join it?
Short answer: It’s anyone and everyone who’s interested in BDSM, and if that’s you, then you’re already in! Long answer: If you’ve spent any time looking into BDSM online, read any articles about it, or have any friends who are into BDSM (or kink in general) then you’ve probably come across the term “the BDSM…
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Interview with a client: Katje
Have you ever wondered what it might be like to submit to me? Or have you thought about booking my Beginner’s Session, but nerves got the better of you? Or heck, are you just curious about what it’s like to be one of my clients / submissives? Wonder no more! Instead, watch this video where…
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Beginner’s Guide to Anal
So you want to give anal a try and see what all the fuss is about? Alright, here’s your complete guide! It’s a bit lengthy, but that’s because I’ve answered pretty much all the usual questions and concerns. First, some basics. Ignore what you see in porn. You can’t grab a partner as soon as…
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Vetting potential partners
You may hear about “vetting” people in terms of finding potential new partners, whether it’s for relationships or just for play – but what does it mean? When it comes to vanilla dating, the whole point of dating someone is to figure out if they’re the right person for you. Sometimes it just takes one…
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BDSM Philosophies – SSC, RACK, PRICK, CCCC, TREK and FRIES
In this entry, I’ll answer another one of the most common questions I get: what are the meanings of the acronyms SSC, RACK, PRICK, CCCC, TREK and FRIES? Simply put, they’re a bunch of terms mostly related to the different attitudes some people have towards BDSM (the exception being FRIES). They’re not compulsory, you don’t…
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Common BDSM scams and how to spot them.
Scammers are everywhere these days, and they’ve even made it into the world of BDSM, so here are some common examples, along with how to spot them, and what to do if you think you’ve been scammed. 1. The “Are you ready to serve a real Mistress?” scam. This is the most common scam going,…