One of the (many) things I enjoy doing with my submissives is using toys – especially remote controlled one! Obviously it’s fun in person (especially on a longer booking where we might go out in public) but it’s the perfect compliment to an online dynamic.
Whether you’re one of my clients already, are thinking of being one, or you’re looking for something to use with your own partner, let’s take a look at some of my favourites.
As you can tell from the image above, I’m going to focus on the Lovense range. I’ve tried other brands, and I always come back to Lovense. They’re not perfect, but overall they do work more consistently than other brands I’ve tried.
Lovense Ferri
Product page: https://www.lovense.com/r/urb6a8
This is currently my favourite. It’s a panty vibrator, so it sits on the outside of the pussy rather than being an insertable vibe. It attaches to the victim wearer’s panties with a magnet (the Ferri on the inside of the panties with the top part against the clit, and then you put the magnet on the outside of the panties to keep it in place). It’s quiet enough that if you wore it in public it is only audible in very quiet areas; walking down a high street or sitting in a coffee shop would be fine, but using it in a confessional is likely to get you an awful lot of “Hail Mary”s. It’s small, discrete enough to wear without anyone knowing that you’re not as innocent as you look, but powerful enough to be enjoyable.
There are two main reasons why the Ferri is my fave; first is that it is small which means it can easily be carried around in a purse during the day, and second is that it’s much easier to put on / remove than an insertable is. Together these mean that spontaneous play is simple and convenient, even if you’re out and about.
Lovense Hush
Product page: https://www.lovense.com/r/xagb49
This is my second favourite. It’s a buttplug, and it’s available in four sizes.
They all have the all-important flared base, the design of which is narrow enough to enable you to wear it for longer periods comfortably. If you’re new to anal toys, go with the XS size Hush – it’s less intimidating than most metal plugs. If you’re used to having large objects up there, then you’ll probably prefer one of the larger sizes. Be warned, the “medium” is quite large, and the “large” is not kidding. Lovense do have measurements on the product page if you want to compare sizes to any toys you currently use.
This is my second favourite because even though, like all butt toys, it requires more prep before use (so it’s less suitable for spontaneous play), once it’s in position it is very effective… It’s also quite comfortable; you know it’s there, but it’s not digging into you like metal plugs can – more comfort means more chances for fun during the day…
Lovense Lush
Product page: https://www.lovense.com/r/h6yao1
And for those keeping count, this is my third favourite toy. The Lush is the remote controlled vibrator Lovense is probably best known for, currently in it’s fourth version. I’ve linked to the latest model here, but the slightly older Lovense Lush 3 can be found here and there’s also a Lovense Lush Mini here. Like the Hush, the Lush is an insertable, but for the vagina this time. It’s designed to press up against the g-spot, and the tail/antenna curls up against the outside of the body. They’ve been making it more powerful with every iteration, and in addition to the vibration, it also gives you a pelvic floor workout trying to keep it in if you wear it without panties!
I like the Lush because although it’s less convenient than the Ferri, it is still comfortable to wear during the day, and it hits the parts the Ferri doesn’t.
The Lovense app
The toys do have buttons on them, they’re really designed to be paired to your phone and used with the Lovense app. This gives you (and me) a lot of control over the strength of the vibration, as you’d expect, but also lets you/me send patterns and loops. I know patterns are usually the least used part of a vibe, but with the Lovense toys, they’re actually good. Using the app, you can easily set your own “loop” – for example, one of my favourite things to do is slowly ramp the speed up over 20+ seconds to about 30%, let it sit at that for a while, then drop it down to 10%, then creep back up to 50%, drop down a bit, then slowly increase some more… Then let the loop repeat. It gives both tease and denial!
You can easily add me/partners to the app to let them control your toy from anywhere in the world – they just need the app and a Lovense account, and then you can choose whether you have to accept their control request or give them automatic approval so you don’t need to get your phone out while you’re in line at Costa. There’s also messaging built into the app.
It’s not infallible – you do need to have a decent mobile signal or be on wifi otherwise the connection can be lost – but in my opinion, the Lovense app (and toys) are better than the WeVibe options.
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