Dax & Friends
Want the benefits of a BFF or relationship without the hassle?
What is Dax & Friends?
Are you looking for…
- All the benefits of a friend without the risks or drama that are part of many modern friendships?
- Someone to talk to about anything you want, without fear of real-life friends, family, employers, colleagues or fans finding out?
- Someone who will always treat you with decency, respect and compassion?
- Someone who’ll be your friend on your terms, and won’t be offended if you set your own boundaries?
- Someone who won’t judge you, think you’re stupid, or talk behind your back, and who will always be honest with you?
- Someone whom you can ask those questions you’re afraid to ask people who know you, or talk through ideas without them being leaked or criticised?
- Someone who’ll always be there, and won’t think you’re needy or annoying?
- Someone you can trust, partly because their reputation is based on being trustworthy, respectful and discreet, and partly because they’re invested in the friendship as much as you are?
- Someone who will care about you as a person, not because of what they can get out of you?
As “Sir Dax”, I’ve been providing online and in-person D/s services for a number of years now. Whilst that’s what most of my clients want, I’ve noticed some are really just looking for a friend. If I had to guess, I’d say that the focus on communication and consent, that underpins my approach to BDSM, also helps people feel comfortable opening up to me in general about everything. And one of the things that I’ve, sadly, become used to in my time doing this, is the overwhelming frequency with which I’m thanked for being, basically, “not a jerk.” It saddens me that we live in a world where people find decency so rare that they’re relieved when they find it, and even willing to pay for it, but here we are.
So, that’s the whole idea behind “Dax & Friends” – for people who want someone to talk to that they can trust, but don’t want BDSM aspects like Domination & submission.
What are the options?
There are four levels:
Mates Rates: For those who don’t need the full Dax & Friends service. We’ll keep in touch via social media (Twitter, Instagram or Discord) throughout the week, but not necessarily every day.
£100 per month
BFF (Best Friend Fun!): I’ll be there for you. You’ll be able to message me any time, and talk about pretty much anything – as personal or wide ranging as you want. I’ll check in with you to see how you’re doing, and voice or video calls will be possible too. You’re also welcome to ask questions about sex, kink, BDSM etc, but if you actually want sexting then you’ll need the next option (FWB).
£250 per month
FWB (Friends With Benefits): Same as above, but with optional sexting / sexual content / remote control toys etc. I’ve kept this as a separate, more expensive option because folk that want it will probably want a proper Sir Dax package, but also it ensures that on the BFF package we can both feel comfortable that there’s no unspoken or unwanted expectations of sexting or sexual content.
£300 per month
BFE (Boyfriend Experience): This takes FWB to a whole new level. Do you want a boyfriend without all the hassle? That’s what you get with BFE. I’ll take a more proactive interest in your life (and career, if you like), you’ll have priority access to me, I’ll send you personalised videos, and if you choose the optional “expense account” then I’ll use it to send you flowers, gifts and other surprises (you tell me what things you like, I’ll use the expense account accordingly).
Limit of two BFE clients at a time – if this is “Unavailable” contact me to go on the waiting list.
£1000 per month + optional expense account value of your choice.
I also offer exclusive rates if you want me all to yourself, including in person for dates, holidays, social events etc. Contact me to discuss.
FAQs
Is there a trial period?
Yes. Firstly, we’ll spend a few weeks or so discussing how I can be the sort of friend you want. During that time you’ll naturally get a feeling for who I am as a person, and how I’m going to treat you. If, at any point during that negotiation period, you don’t want to continue, then no problem – just walk away (although I’d appreciate a heads-up rather than ghosting). Following that period, and only when you’re ready, there will be a one week trial period – totally free and without obligation – where you can see whether or not it works for you in reality. Again, you are free to walk away at any time. Once the trial week has finished, if you want to continue, simply pay for the first month and away we go!
What is the extent of the service?
Mates Rates: We’re online friends who chat via social media. It may not be every day, but I’ll reply as often as I can. It’s ideal for someone who doesn’t need the full service, but still wants someone they can talk to.
BFF and FWB: it’s like any other friend, but on your terms. You can call or message me when you need someone to talk to, or want advice, or just want someone to listen. Use me to bounce ideas off, or to help you get your life in order, or to have a watch party with. Most clients just want me to be there when they need me, but if you want me to see how you’re doing then I’ll message first if you want. BFF is purely platonic, FWB gives you the freedom to enjoy a bit of spicy chat if, and only if, YOU want to. The reason these two are similar is that you have the peace of mind of knowing that, if you choose BFF, then there is no question of spicy stuff.
BFE: it’s like having a (long distance) partner except you don’t need to worry about the toilet seat being left up or arguments over the remote control. You get all the companionship without any of the drawbacks or guessing games. Whilst I won’t fall in love with you, I do genuinely care about my clients.
With all levels: If you’re in my area, or if you choose a “Fly me to you” upgrade, I’ll also hang out with you in person, go to an event with you as your +1, or even go on holiday with you. Contact me to discuss rates for this optional addition.
How much of your time does each friend get, and are there any limitations to how much a friend can contact you?
My goal is for this to feel as natural as any other friendship, so there will be times when I am available immediately, and times when there may be a delay getting back to you – if I’m on the school run or with my family, for example. As a rough guide:
Mates Rates: up to an hour a week of social media messaging.
BFF & FWB– an average of 30 mins per day messaging / calling
BFE – an average of two hours per day messaging / calling.
How do I know I can trust you?
Well, the honest answer is of course that you don’t, not until we’ve spent some time getting to know each other. I’ve been active on social media (mainly Twitter – @TheSirDax) and Reddit for quite some time, though, and you’re welcome to scroll through everything I’ve said publicly in the past. Due to the sexual nature of the vast majority of my clients to date I can’t provide identifiable references (that would defeat the whole point of discretion), but you can find genuine testimonials from some of my BDSM clients on this page and also Dax & Friends-specific testimonials at the bottom of this page.
Having said all that, you’ll have ample opportunity to get to know me before we actually start. First, I offer a free, no obligation, one week trial period for you to decide whether or not you want to go ahead. Before that, however, we’ll spend a few weeks sorting out the details of how our friendship will work. Yes, that’s right, you can set ground rules! Ever wish you could tell your friends not to do stuff without them being upset? Well, now you can! Perhaps you only want to hear from me when you message first – that’s fine. You never want to hear about my family? No problem. You don’t want me to ask about something? Totally OK. We’ll spend (on average) a month or so emailing back and forth and agreeing how things will work – and during that time, you’ll get a very good feel for who I am, what sort of person I am, and whether or not you’re comfortable with me. Once we’ve agreed everything, and you’re happy, we’ll try it out for a week – at the end of which, we can either part ways, or continue.
You’ll have my personal phone number and ID.
Will you sign an NDA?
Yes, however you’ll need to pay any legal fees I incur as part of doing so.
Do you need to know who I am?
If you choose the option that includes sexting, then I’ll need proof you’re over 18, otherwise no. If you need an anonymous method of payment, I have wishlists you can send from anonymously.
Testimonials
“Everyone should have a Dax as friend! He is cheeky and sweet and just overall fun to be around. But the best I can open up to him about everything and know I won’t be judged. It’s great to know someone that can be trusted, genuinely cares and isn’t holding back honest opinions on things.”
C (BFF tier)
“I first engaged Dax when in the reemerging to the world phase of recovering from an intense breakup! I was looking for someone with whom I could practice connecting, flirting, and getting back into the fun parts of relating to others safely, without the baggage of bad dates and awkward hookups. In the months we’ve been working together, he has demonstrated respect for my boundaries, offered empathy and advice on challenging personal situations, and helped me rebuild my confidence in my sexuality (and my spicy texts). Dax’s empathy and intuition are complemented by his warmth and humor, though his greatest strength is probably his communication, which is always clear, honest, and kind. I can’t imagine a better way to explore what I enjoy about intimacy and relating to others in a safe, genuine, fun way!”
D (FWB tier)