Beginner’s Session
I’ve developed a special beginner’s session, specifically for those who have never tried BDSM before, or who have tried BDSM but had a bad experience.
What is the Beginner’s Session, and who is it for?
“Beginning BDSM” is a single, fixed-price session which I’ve specifically designed for submissive newcomers, mainly:
- Those who have never tried BDSM before (or who have minimal real-world experience) and want to experience it properly and find out more, or
- Those who have had a bad or otherwise unsatisfactory experience, and would like to explore in a safe environment with a professional guide.
The session is designed to do two things:
- It will give you the opportunity to try out many typical, popular activities that are often found in BDSM, and especially in D/s dynamics, and learn about them (including their risks) in a comfortable, no-pressure environment.
- It will give you the knowledge and confidence to embark on your BDSM journey by yourself (if you so wish). I’ll teach you all about what a healthy D/s dynamic looks like, what red and green flags to look for in a potential partner, how to meet people, how to go about things in the best way, and more. The session is intended to be a one-off; it’s not meant to keep you coming back to me for more (although of course you can!) so there’s no drip-feeding of information or any “advanced” level that needs to be paid for separately.
Frequently Asked Questions
What does the Beginner’s Session cover?
During the session I will demonstrate a number of BDSM acts & techniques on you, and I’ll also cover everything you need to know to begin (or continue) your journey as a submissive.
Topics covered include:
- Basic BDSM and D/s experiences such as collaring, inspection, restraints, spanking, toys and more.
- Personal safety, including how to meet and vet kinky people.
- Play safety, including learning how you should expect things like spanking, clamping, bondage etc to be done, so you know what to expect or, if necessary, can teach an inexperienced partner.
- Consent.
- Myths about BDSM and what the reality is.
- How to meet kinky people – including dating apps, munches, and FetLife (also covers going to your first munch).
- Explanations of various activities and what they involve.
- Techniques you can teach your partner.
- Things to do at home.
- Where to find additional information.
You are encouraged to ask as many questions as you want. My goal is for you to leave the session fully equipped to continue your kinky journey, so although I have a pre-planned session outline, you are encouraged to ask any questions you want, and I’ll answer them. The session has a fixed price regardless of how long it takes (although travel expenses may be added, depending on where the session takes place); the cost is equivalent to a normal two-hour BDSM session with me, but the average duration of the Beginner’s Session is three hours; and since I want you to be able to have all your questions answered before I leave, there’s no rush and I’m happy to stay for up to six hours for no extra cost.
In addition, every Beginner’s Session includes a free “Sir Dax” metal buttplug as a souvenir for you to keep.
What should you expect?
Although I have a pre-planned session outline (see below), each session is tailored to the individual client, based on conversations we’ll have beforehand. For example, if you don’t want to try certain things, that’s fine; if you want to spend more time discussing the finer points of consent or want my advice about something specific, that’s totally fine too.
Having said that, a general outline will look like this:
- Introduction.
- Explanation of what we’ll be doing, including how and why.
- Collaring.
- Inspection.
- Basic service.
- Sensation play.
- Impact play.
- Aftercare.
- Safety.
- How to find, meet and vet kinky people.
- Other stuff not yet covered.
- Questions!
This is just an example – if you’d rather do more of the theory side of things before trying things out, that’s fine too – I usually do it after play because I’ve found most people are eager to get into that first, but it’s totally up to you.
How much does it cost?
All this is just £299 + travel expenses (see below) for one person. It’s a fixed price – ask all the questions you want, experience all the BDSM activities you want, for up to six hours (average session length is three hours, but I’m happy to stay longer for no additional cost). I want you to leave the session with confidence, with all your questions answered, and with a clear and healthy of understanding of what BDSM and D/s are – and what they’re not.
My travel expenses are 25p per mile by car, plus £25 per half-hour of travel over the first hour each way. For example, if we met near Birmingham, that would be around 100 miles each way for me, taking two hours each way. 100 miles at 25p per mile = £25, both ways = £50. Two hours travel, minus the first hour, is one hour at £25 per half hour, so £50, both ways =£100. Total cost for beginner’s session would be £299 + £50 mileage + £100 travel time = £449.
If we meet in Lincoln, then there are no travel expenses as that’s where I’m based.
Where does it take place?
I recommend you book a hotel; it’s much more comfortable than a dungeon and there are no time constraints. If you book the hotel then you can choose somewhere you’re comfortable with. I also recommend you let a friend know where you’ll be, and enable location sharing on your phone. I also encourage you to set up a “safety call” for during the session. I’m based near Lincoln, and can recommend a few hotels here (plus it will save you paying my travel expenses).
For the safety of both of us, I don’t do home visits for people I am not familiar with.
What do you need to bring?
As part of your first BDSM experience, you’ll be told what to wear (from your current wardrobe, you won’t need to buy anything new unless you particularly want to). You are welcome to bring any toys you would like me to use on you during the session, although I will come fully equipped with my “Big Box o’ Bondage” so you don’t need to bring anything. All clients will also get a discount from my online store (DevianceByDax.com) and a free souvenir buttplug.
Will you have to undress?
It’s not necessary; some activities won’t be possible if you remain clothed, but we can still discuss them, and there is absolutely no pressure or need for you to undress if you don’t want to. Inspection (which usually happens near the beginning of the session) can involve me undressing you as I inspect you, but it’s entirely up to you, and you can change your mind at any time.